Know who YOU are.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalms 139:14
The anointing can not be copied. Though we have great women going forth in this arena, there is a big difference in imitating and emulating. Emulating is looking at how an organization/person is put together and deciding that you want your organization or yourself to work/present at that level. Imitating is not having any original thought and simply doing what you see because it works. God does not need to make copies. There is an calling, style of delivery and anointing that HE created in you. Ask God what it is and listen for his instructions.
Know Whose you are.
Then the word of the Lord came to me, saying: “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; Before you were born I sanctified you; Jeremiah 1:4-5
Whether we ever admit to ourselves or not, this is still a “Man’s world!” Great strides have been made in the acceptance of women in ministry. But there are still quite a few who will never accept it. Included in that list are women who feel you are bound for hell as well. They are not your problem. Give them over to the Lord. Meanwhile, when they look past you, won’t acknowledge you in the pulpit, ask you to speak from the floor or other well known requests, Know it is God who called you and not man.
Your Family will need to time to adjust.
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7
Just like you needed to time to accept what God has placed on your life, your family needs the same amount of courtesy getting adjusted to your acceptance of the call. They have just been put under the spotlight in a fishbowl existence and will have unrealistic expectations shoved on them out of nowhere. Get past the notion that you are an island. Everything you do will reflect your ministry and everything they do will reflect your ministry. Fair? No. The way it is? YES.
Whomever exalts himself shall be humbled, and he who humbles himself shall be exalted. Matt. 23:12
If you are asked to pray, pray. If you are suppose to read the scripture, read the scripture. Don’t take any opportunity at the mic to convince anyone that you are the next big thing coming down the pipe. If that is God’s plan, it will happen soon enough. You will be respected far more for your obedience to assignment, than going beyond what you have been asked to do by grandstanding.
Find the Balance Part I (Family)
This single issue has plagued us ALL. Finding the balance between ministry and family. God is a BIG believer in marriage.
8And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Gen. 2:18
One of the first institutions He created was marriage. As anointed as you may be; as on fire as you are; as in demand as you may be, your husband still just wants to know his boo is in there somewhere. Your children just want their mother. I am talking to the single mother in ministry too. You are not sitting down on God to take care of what He gave you in the first place. Believe that He sees every element of your life and called you in the midst of it. MAKE time for them, especially now. If you give them some quality time, you will be amazed at how much ministry time you will receive.
Finding the Balance – Part II (Ministry)
Prayer, fasting, studying and spending time with Him sound like no brainers, but there is a delicate balance you have to keep in order not to get weird. Find a time when you can focus. Sometimes that is at lunch, because we know we can not fall asleep while reading the word. ( Umm, hum) Some of my most profound times have been in the car.
You can’t shut yourself away and study, study, study and never deal with people. God anointed you to touch the lives of people. You can’t fast until you are fainting dead away at every instance. If you are married, you and your husband have to be in agreement with the fast because that means no sex.
Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control 1 Corinth. 7:5
You will develop a flow in your preparation time with God. So that you may become empowered by the Word and presence of the Lord.
God has your time in His Hands.
14 But I trust in you, O LORD; I say, “You are my God.” 15 My times are in your hands; 16 Let your face shine on your servant; save me in your unfailing love. Psalms 31:14-16
If you are not being called to do the conferences or be the keynote speaker at events…It is not an indictment against your ministry. Let’s use Jesus as our example. We get the big announcement about the birth of Jesus. Then we here about him again when he is 12 years old confounding the teachers in the synagogue. Then the curtain drops and we don’t here from Jesus again until he is 30 years old. There is a season that every minister goes through where God hides us for a time for training, teaching, molding and shaping. Your time will come where God lifts the curtain and allows you to go forth. Until then, stay prayerful, study to show thyself approved and take care of yourself. Mind, body and soul. It is the temple of the Holy Ghost.